It seems to me,that the number of toxic people is growing.Maybe i've just come across more of them over the last few years?
Often people with HUGE egos want to wangle their way in,control people and know everything about everyone(normally to be held in reserve to be used against them at a later date!)if they don't conform to the toxic ones wishes,normally!
Amongst the pagan community,this is a massive problem,what SEEMED to be a free-thinking,easy-going group across the country,just a few years ago,has now turned into a very insular,judgemental group of bitter people,sometimes driven by the false-gossip of these same "toxic people"
There are still lots of lovely,genuine people amongst the pagan community,but they are being driven underground,too wary/afraid to connect with others because of the way the "pagan community" has been changed and subverted by the toxic liars and control-freaks.
If only we (the genuine,nice ones) can still try to connect with others,we will find each other,I have had experience of several toxic pagans over the years,the first one hurt badly,every successive one,less-so....You also learn to spot them more quickly and so limit the damage to yourself and others.
One bit of advice i have,is be concerned with YOUR path,YOUR life and YOUR way of expressing both,others choices are not your business.......If this cuts the negative judgements by pagans of other pagans even a tiny bit,it will be a start!
It's not others decrying pagans and villifying them nowadays,it's other pagans......What a sad state of affairs!
i am experiencing the same thing Celt that i posted about last week...a toxic person, thats a great way to describe it (wish i had thought of it when i was trying to explain!) whats so frustrating is that they are slowly targeting the group one by one, buying friendships and seeming to be a friend to all while at the same time being nasty to people behind their backs, telling lies about things people are supposed to have said...i find it upsetting that it has already fractured the group.
ReplyDeleteHi, I found your blog through Laoi's Solstice Dreamer blog, I think it is very sad that people are behaving like this, upsetting people and destroying friendships. We all need to support each other and focus on our own paths. I think the idea of a "toxic" person is prevalent throughout society and I have met a number of them in my work, they dont care about the destruction they leave behind x
ReplyDeleteHi Laoi!
ReplyDeleteIt's (unfortunately) what a lot of these sorts of people do,divide and conquer!They can't stand to see a happy,cohesive group,they're often to be found joining groups that were(before they joined)fairly content to get along with each other....They join and all hell is let loose :-(
Hi Becky :-)
There certainly do seem to be a lot of them about at the moment,there probably always has been,but in the pagan community that i most frequent,they have become REALLY noticable,i think this is because most of the nice people have moved on due to the effect of these people and their huge egos....sad,but true.